I am polyamorous. If I had to describe my approach to polyamory, I’d say it is the rejection of the notion that absolute exclusivity is needed for intimate emotional and physical relationships, the kind of exclusivity expected in a typical monogamous relationship. This means I sometimes date multiple people. Sometimes I am in more than…… Continue reading Toxic Polyamory, Male Fantasies, and Exclusion
‘I wish I could be as angry as you.’ I was sitting on the floor of my cousin’s living room. I had just come out to him and his wife earlier in the day. He had gone to bed early. Me and his wife stayed up late and talked. We talked about feminism, about me…… Continue reading Sin and Salvation
It is January 14, 2019, and my fingers have started to automatically reach for the ‘9’ instead of the ‘8’. Progress comes in many different forms. The turn of the New Year usually gets people to be both reflective and make long term goals. Personally, I spent the weeks before and after New Years drinking…… Continue reading It’s 2019, baby.
In my experience a lot of trans women (when they first come out, especially) take bold steps to assert themselves. And I think many of us approach this assertion in similar ways. Asserting our names and asserting how we want to be addressed is common, as is asserting our, for lack of a better word,…… Continue reading Being The Woman You Want to Be
I woke up this morning to the news that the government was going to take away even more transgender rights. I stared at the article, in bed, and in darkness. I looked on Twitter, saw the reactions. The gleeful gloating of bigots and the heartbroken trans people this change will affect. My heart sank. I…… Continue reading Words Aren’t Enough
I had a mostly uneventful follow up appointment on August 29th. The doctor I had been seeing was absent, so I met with a new doctor. The appointment was short and I don’t remember her name, but she was very professional and nice, and put me at ease (which, given my social anxiety, is no…… Continue reading Month 5: Lasers and Estrogen
So I recently completed my first full month on HRT, and I thought I’d briefly describe the physical and emotional changes that I’ve experienced because of the estradiol and spironolactone. Please note that everyone will have a different experience with hormone replacement therapy, and my case is probably not typical. My doctor, during my most…… Continue reading The First Month on HRT